No one should feel the trauma and shame of narcissistic abuse. You feel confused, distraught and powerless. Deep down, you know this person is wrong for you and that they’re intentionally harming you, but you feel like you can’t stop obsessing about them. You may feel astounded that you can’t leave them … and stay away.
You feel like you can’t stop being hooked in. Nishita Mohan was one of them who got narcissistically abused by someone who was destroying her and she is here to tell you it’s not your fault. Nishita has helped women to break free from an intimate partner, family, friend and co-worker toxic relationships to heal completely, so they can dramatically transform their lives.
Today we talk with Nishita Mohan about narcissistical abuse.
In your own words, what do you do?
I am a former Le cordon bleu pastry chef turned women empowerment relationship coach helping women globally to love themselves fearlessly and manifest healthy and loving relationships. Also a narcissistic abuse recovery specialist and flower reader.
What inspired you to start your own business?
What inspired me to start my own business is my WHY. After I went through a traumatic divorce, it led me to pursue my own business as I would not want to depend on anybody financially ever again.
What inspired you to become a coach for women who have been abused narcissistically?
What inspired me to become a coach for women who’ve been narcissistically abused was the fact that I went through several relationships like these and even friendships and it was torturous. After that, I realized I wouldn’t want anyone to go through this type of painful ordeal as it’s very hard to detect. Only a person who’s been narcissistically abused will know about this and understand it.
How does it work getting coached by you?
What you can expect from me as being a coach is that I will give my utmost care and dedication in helping my clients achieve their peace, self-love and move on from this type of abuse. I will dedicate my time and effort and do whatever I can to see that the women can achieve a beautiful life after abuse as I am a living testimony. I want to give hope to these women.
How do you think some women attract this type of person?
Some women attract these types of people because they are either empaths or have been in a narcissistic parental relationship when they were younger so they feel that love is control and abuse as this is the only way they experienced love in their childhood.
What advice can you give to avoid narcissists?
The advice I can give to avoid narcissist is to read my book. Apart from that, learn about the early warning signs when dating a person.
How can women become more sooner aware of narcissists?
Women can become sooner aware of this type of abuse by attending talks on this topic or reading several books about this and also detecting early warning signs of abuse by not giving people the benefit of doubt so easily if they display any type of emotional abuse in the early stages. Keep a lookout and be fully aware.
What other advice can you give?
The other advice I can give to women is to take ten minutes a day of your day and devote it to some self-care and self live activity. It can be as simple as having a bubble bath or making a cup of warm hot chocolate.
What is the one advice that has impacted you the most?
1 great advice I share with my clients to achieve their goals is to embody the energy of an animal they love and if they are ever feeling low it feels like giving up, to embody that animal energy and take action from that space.
Here we share 8 Tips for Coping with a Critical Narcissist
1. Ignore. Like dealing with a bully, if you ignore the harshness, it gives them no satisfaction, and they will find someone else to pick on.
2. Don’t take the bait and fight with them. Turn the other cheek, and don’t justify or defend your actions to them when you do.
3. Understand their criticism for what it is: It is not about you. It is about their disorder. Don’t personalize what is said to you.
4. When you communicate, set clear boundaries, and use clear communication. Say what you mean directly.
5. If you have to make a decision to stay away, make it clearly and boldly, and follow-through.
6. Believe in your own intuition and feelings. Our bodies tell us when something is not right, and when people are treating us badly.
7. Remember, you get to protect you, and you can do it. Don’t expect other people to rescue you from a narcissist. It is empowering to stand up to them and claim your voice.
8. Remember that we all deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion. It’s a worthwhile goal to work to bring more kindness into the world for others. Be an example for your kids, friends, and family.
Empathy is the antithesis of narcissism. What can you do today to bring love into your world and stamp out the impact of narcissists?