Confidence is the cornerstone of leadership. However, if you do not believe in yourself, how can others believe in you? Whether you want to heighten your confidence in a relationship, at work, with peers, etc., success is not the be all and end all. Confidence in yourself and your abilities is what matters most and luckily, confidence is a skill that can be honed and mastered!
It is important to visualize an image of yourself that you are proud of. When struggling with low self-confidence, you have a poor perception of yourself that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a version of yourself that you aspire to, achieving your goals. Confidence will also be gained by bettering your mind and body each day. Ideally, you should establish a morning routine that consists of a quick meditation and workout to set your day on a great path.
Question Your Inner Critic
Some of the harshest critiques that we have to contend with come from ourselves. If you are struggling with low self-confidence, there is a possibility that your inner critic has become overactive and inaccurate. Question your inner critic and look for evidence to support or deny the things that your inner critic is saying to you. For example, if you think that you are failing at something, ask yourself, “What evidence is there to support the thought that I am failing?” and “What evidence is there that doesn’t support the thought that I am failing?” Find opportunities to congratulate, compliment, and reward yourself, even for the smallest successes.
Knowledge is Power
Confidence comes naturally with knowledge in that you become more confident as you develop and hone a new skill you feel comfortable sharing with others. By continuing to learn and staying on top of world issues, you will become a better-informed and confident individual. Try to increase your knowledge on a broad range of topics, as well. Subscribe to blogs and podcasts that interest you to stay abreast of new developments in a certain field. The Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done what you want, together with books, magazines, and educational institutions.
Do One Thing That Scares You Every Day
If the goal is to become more confident, you must learn to confront your fears. The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. Doing something that scares you every day and leaving your comfort zone, will help you gain more and more confidence. Whether it is public speaking, making an important decision, changing jobs, reaching out to a new contact, etc., learn to work past your fears and proudly conquer them!
Dress to Impress
It is hard to argue that when you look good, you feel good. Consequently, it is hard to feel good about yourself if you are unhappy with your physique or constantly have low energy. It is important to take pride in your personal presentation. Simple and inexpensive grooming practices such as a fresh haircut or getting your nails done can help you to look and feel more confident. Dressing neatly and presentably will help you feel successful and ready to tackle the world.
Most importantly, believe in yourself! It is easy to fall into the habit of relying on the approval of others in order to feel good about yourself. But fishing for compliments and the approval of others is not going to do your self-esteem any favors. The best kind of confidence boost is the one that comes from within!