12 Traps to Avoid When You’re Pursuing Your Goals (Part I)

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    May 21, 2020
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It’s A Set-Up! This is what you hear from someone who is warning you that you are about to walk into a trap. When you hear this you will either prepare and beat the set up or avoid the situation all together. 

The above is true when it comes to pursuing your goals and ambitions one of the dangers is walking into traps. So how can you better prepare yourself or in some instances avoid the trap altogether? Read 12 Traps to Avoid When You’re Pursuing Your Goals – Women On Topp

Don’t be Too Eager…To Please 

So many times people are wanting to please those that they think are going to have an influence on their success. While you want to make a good impression on those that matter, connect, network and perhaps even work with, you want to hold back on going over the top otherwise they can take advantage. Be confident, competent and know your boundaries even when trying to impress someone else. 

Watch Your Mouth

Your language is so important, both with yourself and everyone – and I mean everyone – that you interact with. Know your audience and use the appropriate language and style of communication that is both authentic to you as well as connects with them. Whether it’s customer, client, colleague, team member, mentor etc. 

Eyes Forward – No Distractions

Focus your attention and activities on the things that matter, otherwise you will find yourself not making much progress and becoming frustrated. Avoid things that do not serve you including distractions. The faster you learn this the better you will be able to keep your eyes on the prize – which is your goal. 

Never compromise your Integrity 

‘It’s just business’ ‘That is is what it takes to make it’ ‘That is just the way it is’ 

Never do anything that compromises your integrity. Your values and principles make you who you are. Be mindful that while growth may sometimes evolve your values and principles, never act against them because you feel ‘that is just what you have to do’. 

Keep Your Friends Close, Keep Your Enemies Far – not closer 

Fix your mindset and stop seeing anyone as an enemy. If they have wronged you in some way, truly forgive them and go your separate ways. Don’t be fake with each other and pretend, negativity only breeds negativity which ultimately sabotages your dreams. Competition is competition not an enemy.

Stop Forcing It

You don’t need to work with people that do not align with you. Do not force yourself or force others to conform. It’s ok that we can’t all work together, that’s what gives abundance. There is room for everyone. Also just because someone does not want to work with you does not make them the enemy or a bad person. Just like you can’t say yes to everything and everyone neither can they. 

Patience is a Virtue – And you better have it 

Be patient with the process, and respect the process. Success does not happen overnight. Put in the time and put in the work, consistently. It’s fine to look at ways to increase efficiency but don’t look for shortcuts all the time thinking you can get to your destination faster. You will learn a lot from the process itself so respect it. 

Forgive and Forget Move On

Understand that there are a lot of things that will happen that will require you to forgive, process, reflect and move forward. You will never forget what has happened but you can decide how you interpret and learn from it. You will move on but only if you keep the right mindset and use what has happened to empower you and not disable you. 

Stop Making Excuses For Yourself and Others

While there are reasons that can explain something, there are no excuses. Keep your standards high and do not allow excuses both from yourself and others. 

Understand the Problem and Then Focus on the Solution

Be sure that you don’t dwell on the problem, however you need to understand the problem before focusing on the solution. 

It Is Not A Lack of Resources but A Lack Of Resourcefulness – Tony Robbins 

What he said…it is so easy to say you can’t do something because you don’t have something. Open your mind and you will find a way to get what you need, to do what you want. 

Remember Who You Are – Mufasa (The Lion King)

Never lose your authenticity and yourself in the pursuit of your goals and ambitions. Avoid this trap by continuously working on your self-development and checking in with yourself regularly. 

Keep an eye out for these traps And above all else, Believe in Yourself!

Haseena Bheekhun

Haseena Bheekhun is a Coach, Mentor, and Consultant. The scope of expertise in many areas of lifestyle, career life and business spans as wide as the exposure and first-hand experience has enabled her to interpret and understand the do’s and don’ts. Packaging this in a way that caters to the individual and the extended professional environment i.e. small company, large company or organization individuals are able to improve personally and professionally. Haseena’s vision is to empower and enable others to utilize their full potential and achieve their goals, by educating them and the wider community on various issues relating to mindset. Haseena enjoys creative and educational pursuits in philosophy, psychology, technology, science, and art.

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