Being A Nice Girl Doesn’t Get You Ahead – 5 Symptoms

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    May 1, 2022
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Being A Nice Girl Doesn't Get You Ahead - 5 Symptoms

Here are 5 symptoms of you being a too nice girl, which will never get you ahead at your company.

The actions that won your praise as a little girl now probably won’t help you get ahead at your company.

Here’s how to find out if you’re too eager to please. There’s surely nothing wrong with being a girl. Nor do most people think being nice is a problem. So here it is: what’s wrong with being a “nice girl”?

As many of psychologists and authors have pointed out over the years, the qualities we value and praise in little girls being generous to everyone, friendly, quiet and contented at school, etc. rarely translate well when those girls grow up and go looking for professional success. Women who excelled in education find themselves too eager to please, they are too afraid of ruffling feathers, and too unfamiliar to failure and struggle to initially handle the rough business world.

So how will you find out if you’re a nice person in the healthy sense or a nice girl in the problematic sense?

  1. Thinking you can be loved by being nice

Stop thinking you have to be kind and nice to everyone in order to be loved and accepted. Which is basically a ‘mission impossible’. This idea is based on a deeper one that says ‘you are not good enough’. So you have to do things and be in certain ways to be loved. So moving on can be a challenge.

  1. Struggling to say no

Yes, don’t be that girl who will do anything for another at the office, or wherever you work. What can you do about it? Start practicing with what you consider being a small ‘no’ whenever you feel like. Be aware and take a few seconds before rushing to say ‘yes’ as you usually do. Then slowly you will gain confidence to add more ‘no’s’. More practical advice is on offer here, here and here.

  1. Being scared of upsetting people

You’re scared of upsetting people because you feel responsible for other people’s feelings. And you treat them as if they were fragile glasses. Start small again and build your way up to greater authenticity.

  1. Wearing a 24/7-smile

Honestly, no one really feels like smiling ALL the time. That means nor should you be too happy and cheerful all the time. Smiling even when you feel like crying, that’s a little bit crazy.

  1. Feeling like criticism or disapproval is the end of the world

Of course, we don’t enjoy criticism. But those for sufferers of Nice Girl Syndrome hearing negative feedback feels like the end of the world. To overcome your fear start looking honestly at your so called negative qualities. They are all parts of you. Admit that every now and then it’s useful to be bitchy, and bossy to get things done. Accept and embrace them. And then you can choose to change. Or not.

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3 thoughts on “Being A Nice Girl Doesn’t Get You Ahead – 5 Symptoms

  1. Thanks for these tips womenontop. It would be very helpful for a girl like me who are used for being nice. I’ve always been thinking what other would’ve or could’ve say with every little or big actions I would’ve done.

  2. I have all these symptoms. I feel strange. First, because I have all of them and second because now I know what I have to do.

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