As we are all still in
I know that’s easier said than done and I don’t expect you to tackle your biggest goal straight off the bat. I always advise progress over Perfection and I’m a fan of the rather pragmatic approach of starting small and gaining confidence from smaller victories. Here are my top 3 tips for how you can do it:
Start Small
We all have so many things we haven’t tried or that we procrastinate about doing. It may seem silly to you, but I promise you that we are all the same and we all have the same silly little idiosyncrasies. Some people I know have never tried sushi or Mexican food. One older client would love to attend a Zumba class, but she’s not very fit and she fears she doesn’t have enough rhythm to not make a fool of herself in front of an entire class full of people. We put off cleaning out our junk drawer or donating those clothes that are too small for us. We build things up in our minds and talk ourselves out of doing these things every single time.
So, my challenge to you this week, is to start small. Start with something like trying that sushi or organizing that junk drawer. I promise you that you will feel invincible for having done it and you will wonder why you were putting it off for so long.
Be Consistent
Once you have taken the first step to overcome a small fear and you have done something you were afraid to do or you were putting off, you need to make sure that you don’t lose momentum. Do at least one small thing every week and gradually increase that ‘fear factor’ as your confidence grows. See, every small fear that you overcome and every step that you take on this journey, helps you to realize your own abilities and power and it improves your confidence in small, incremental doses. And the more you improve your confidence and develop your ability to have the courage to get past your own fearful voice, the braver you become and the more invincible you will feel.
Keep Learning
Few things give us as much confidence as knowing a lot about a subject or a technology and being able to competently do whatever it is that we set out to do. I am a massive proponent of lifelong learning because it ensures that we don’t stagnate and fall behind the curve. I am also a huge fan of technology and all the opportunities we have for learning and sharing skills, online. Perhaps you want to improve your Excel skills or you want to learn more about project management or digital marketing. You may want to learn to bake the perfect chocolate brownies or how to sew your own clothes.
No matter what it is that you want to learn, there is an affordable (or even free) option for you somewhere online. Service providers like Udemy, Coursera and Edx have set new standards in affordable online learning, along with Alison and Lynda. A simple internet search will help you find free or extremely affordable courses on absolutely anything you can think of. You can also do a skills exchange with a colleague or friend – perhaps Pam in Accounting can teach you some Excel skills in exchange for you teaching her how to dominate on Instagram.
I am on this journey with you. I personally have to focus on improving my physical fitness and strength and I need to finish writing my book. We are all the same and we are all here, hustling every single day and trying to beat our demons. Please remember that the next time you see someone battling in the gym or seeming too shy to speak to anyone at the office party. Be kind. Be supportive. Towards others and for yourself. Overcome one small fear each week and notice the phenomenal changes in the next month. By the end of this year, you will be a courageous and confident badass, ready to take on anything.
Also from SA. Loved this article too, Deborah!