Having A Bad Day? You Got This. 

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    Wana Miri
  • Published on:
    April 26, 2018
  • Reading time by:
    4 minutes

Wana Miri - Founder & Owner Women On Topp

A positive mindset

A positive mindset is everything. However, we also have to be realistic. As human beings, it does not come naturally for us to always be positive. It is important to know that we will have negative thoughts. There will be negativity in our lives. If we teach everyone to only accept positivity, we can forget to remind them that negative thoughts are normal. It is okay to have them. However, it is what you do with these negative thoughts that are important to your well-being and having a happy life. It is easy to drown in negative thoughts. I challenge you to take your negative thoughts and to slowly turn them into something positive. Those negative thoughts can be used as fuel if they are used properly.

Good and bad things

Good and bad things happen to us all the time. There is not one explanation as to why. It is just how life is. Sometimes, we go through things. And, we feel that it is impossible to keep going. It will feel like the world is about to end and that it will be difficult to see past the obstacles. But, the truth is, that situations present themselves so that we can learn lessons. And, sometimes, we need those certain lessons in order to get to the other side. It is on the other side of the obstacle where we need to be, in order to reach happiness, reach our goals, and to just learn more about life.

In an interview, Beyoncé used one of my favorite quotes, which I think could inspire women all around the world who are going through anything. She said, “Whenever I feel bad, I use that feeling to motivate me to work harder. I only allow myself one day to feel sorry for myself. I ask myself, what are you going to do about it? I use that negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.”

Now, the question is: “What are you going to do about it?” Are you going to sit in front of that obstacle and constantly be upset about it or are you going to tackle that obstacle and use it as fuel to get to the other side? Will you use that obstacle as a lesson? Ultimately, the choice is yours.

Here Are 7 Things To Do To Get You Through A Bad Day:

1. Give yourself 1 day to adjust.

Beyoncé gave great advice in that one interview that I mentioned above. Give yourself one day to just feel. Maybe, you feel like one day is not enough for you. If so, take more. Take all of the time that you need to feel all of the emotions. Feel sad if you need to. Talk to someone about it if you need to. But, when you feel mentally ready, be prepared to act.

2. Remember how far you have gotten until now.

You need to remind yourself that nothing is the end of the world. Think of everything that you have previously been through that you thought you wouldn’t get through. But, you did anyway. You’re alive. You’re breathing. You have learned from tribulations. You will get through this, too.

3. Don’t be afraid to feel different emotions.

Don’t bottle everything inside of you. Don’t be afraid to feel different emotions when you are upset. It is normal to have a bad day. It will come back to bother you if you don’t let yourself feel the emotions when they come to you. Do not just bury them deep inside. Let yourself go through the motions so that you can heal from it.

4. Do something that will relax your mind.

Listen to music if you need to. Watch a motivational video. Read something positive. Do anything that will make you feel better and relax your mind.

5. Write down a list of 10 positive traits about yourself.

Go ahead. Write down ten things that you are proud of yourself for. Write down positive character traits about yourself. You need to feed your mind positive thoughts about yourself so that it can overpower the negative thoughts that you are having.

6. Make a change, if necessary.

If you think that making a certain change in your life will avoid this obstacle from ever presenting itself again in the future, then make that change. Get a new job. Don’t talk to that person who always makes you feel bad about yourself. Get a new routine. Pursue that passion that you have always wanted.

7. Remember to have gratitude.

Remember to be thankful for everything that you go through. You will learn from it all. Life is your teacher.

Margaritë Camaj

Margaritë has a very unique story. She has Albanian roots, so she identifies with the struggles of immigrants while she simultaneously is a Bronx, New York City native. She is an Author, publishing 14 works of literature. In addition to her multitalented creative side, she is also a Tri-State (NY, NJ, CT) Attorney. However, she often finds a way to tie the two together. Her love for writing knows no bounds.

           

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