Don’t Be Afraid Of Being Broken

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    Daniel Xavier
  • Published on:
    April 5, 2020
  • Reading time by:
    8 minutes

We all go through struggles and obstacles. Some have greater obstacles than others. However, we all share one thing in common: our hearts get broken, one way or another. Sometimes, it is because of family members. Sometimes, it is because of our partners. Sometimes, it is simply because life can get too hard. Whatever the case is, I want you to remember that you can learn a lot while you are in the darkness. I also want you to remember that you are never broken to the point where you won’t be able to fix yourself and put yourself back together.

If you pay attention to your brokenness, you can put yourself back together even better than you were before. You just have to learn more about yourself and who you are. When you are broken, you see yourself in parts. You are able to see pieces of yourself that you didn’t know before. You discover different parts of yourself every single day. Don’t be afraid of the darkness. You have to go through it in order to find your light. You have to go through it in order to create an even better you.

Here are 5 things to remember while you are broken:

1. Do not be afraid to be alone.

Sometimes, all you have is yourself. I know that this terrifies a lot of people. I know that you usually want people by your side supporting you. But, there comes a time when life might deal with you with a few cards. Sometimes, you need to focus on and eliminate certain things in your life so that you can reach your goals. Being alone isn’t always a bad thing. You have to learn to love your own company. You have to learn about yourself. You have to learn about the love that you hold, your thoughts, your values, and your beliefs before another person gets the chance to.

2. Remember that it is normal to go through struggles.

Remember that there are many people in the world who are going through what you are going through. Although it may feel like you are completely alone and that no one understands you, you have to remember that someone out there does – you just don’t know them. Remember to keep going and don’t quit. Everything happens for a reason. Just don’t forget who you are at the core.

3. Analyze yourself deeply.

Take all of the time that you are in the dark and use it to learn more about yourself. Search deep within your soul and look into your core. Figure out who you are even when you are feeling a lot of pain. This is important.

4. Use that pain and turn it into fuel.

Take that negative energy and use it towards something positive. Create if you have to. Work on that goal that you kept putting off. Do what makes you happy. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Put that energy into use. Don’t be upset over your situation for too long. Do something about it. You have the power over how you feel even though it can seem impossible.

5. Put yourself back together into something greater.

Sometimes, you get too comfortable being broken. That is when brokenness turns into something negative. It is normal to be broken. But, it is important not to stay broken. It is important not to get comfortable and stay in that one state for a long time. While you are broken, learn about yourself and find all of the information that you need. However, make sure that you are not complacent. Make sure that you use your pieces and that information that you find in order to put yourself back together into something greater.

Margaritë Camaj

Margaritë has a very unique story. She has Albanian roots, so she identifies with the struggles of immigrants while she simultaneously is a Bronx, New York City native. She is an Author, publishing 14 works of literature. In addition to her multitalented creative side, she is also a Tri-State (NY, NJ, CT) Attorney. However, she often finds a way to tie the two together. Her love for writing knows no bounds.

           

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